I refuse to be one of those people that bad mouths the ex. Regardless of what happened, or whether the favor is returned. My primary concern is, & always has been, the best interest of my children. It would not be in their best interest of the 3 children from my marriage for me to run down their father. Regardless of how involved he is or is not, the fact that he is their father makes him important to them & I don't have the right, as their mother, to do anything that might erode that. Besides that, I try to be a decent human being & I can find much more productive things to do with my time than run my mouth about someone.
As for what has been said about me, I find the rumors to be a bit funny at times. It's actually surprising that so many people that know me (&, therefore, should know better) believe this stuff, even for a moment. I don't have nearly enough time to cover them all, but I will respond to the ones that my friends keep getting questioned about.
- I did not abandon my husband & children to live "the life I want". The truth is, we were together & in agreement when the decision was made for me to go to law school. This degree, and the opportunities it will bring, is necessary to ensure our kids are cared for.
- I am not now, nor have I ever been, a “bar whore”. I don't even like bars. The few times I have gone out to a bar, it was on nights that I wasn't going to have my kids with me anyway. The bar is certainly not important enough for me to trade time with my kids just for that.
- My marriage did not end because I moved to be with another man because I got pregnant. In actuality, we have been apart since mid-2010. The baby was just born January 2012. Don't get me wrong, I am very happy to have my new son & the older kids love him very much...but he isn't what brought my marriage to an end.
- My older children are not, & never have been, kept away from their father. They have their own phones so that he can call them & they can call him whenever they want. All it takes for him to see them is a phone call to make a plan. I believe that it is a GOOD thing for the kids to spend time with their father & try to accomodate that whenever possible.
Now...y'all can stop calling my friends & asking them about me. If you want to know something, ask ME. I've never been one to hide what I'm doing. I figure that, if you're going to be ashamed of doing something, then don't do it. When I'm big enough to do something, I'm big enough to own that decision.